Casual Sex, Casual Damage: How to Cut the Bull and Keep It Simple

Open With the Knife

You want to keep things light? Let’s cut the bull. You had the sex, the cuddles, the"let’s just vibe" nonsense—but now you’re stuck in your head. Stop assuming you’re some mind-reading saint. Words exist. Use them.

The Only Truth Is What You Say

You think your fears of rejection or guilt will protect you? They won’t. They’ll just make you soft. People don’t play by your rules unless you spell it out. You want casual? Tell him straight up: this ain’t love, this ain’t forever. It’s a deal, not a fairy tale. If he can’t handle that, he’s already lost.

Don’t Let the Cuddles Confuse the Game

Post-coitus cuddles don’t mean what you think they mean. Some men lay there like sleeping lions—big, warm, but not interested in a hunting expedition. Others? They’re just good actors. Don’t let skin-on-skin contact rewrite your plan. Stay the alpha of the situation. If you don’t set the tone, someone else will.

Chester Won’t Be a Mind Reader

You think you’ll be gentle in your warnings? You won’t. You’ll soft-peddle your wants and let his ego fill in the gaps. That’s how heartbreak gets born—on your back, with you wondering,"Why is he sad?" You’re not his psychiatrist. You are the one steering the boat. Don’t let him steer yours.

Communication Isn’t a Weapon—It’s a Weaponizer

People act like having the talk is some nuclear option. It’s not. It’s a grenade pin you拔. You talk it out early, you save yourself the explosion. Don’t wait until you’re knee-deep in emotional landmines. Lay the rules on the table before you start dealing.

He’s an Adult. Let Him Be One

You worry about his feelings? Chill. He’s a man. He’ll be fine. You can’t force him to be honest, but you can’t force him to stay if he doesn’t wanna play by your rules. The ball’s in his court after that. If he tries to play mind-games or guilt-trip you, that’s on him. You did your part.

Keep the Conversation Alive, or Lose the Game

Think a one-time chat seals the deal? Wrong. People change. Situations change. You check in like a general checking his troops. Every few weeks, you reset. If he starts acting like this is a long-term gig when it’s not, it’s time to call it what it is. Communication is a lifestyle, not a one-night stand.

You’re Not Responsible for His Breakdown

If he gets crushed? You had sex with someone who was clear. He’s the one who accepted the deal. If he can’t handle the terms, it’s his loss, not yours. Stop carrying his baggage. That’s what therapists are for. Your job is to be real. His job? To read you and act accordingly.

Action Over Apologies

You can care all you want, but don’t waste energy trying to fix him. He’s got his own mess to clean up. Your move? Model clarity. Show him how to speak up. If he’s too chicken, leave the table. You ain’t his savior. You’re his partner in crime—if you want the crime to stay clean.

The Bottom Line

You want casual? Be casual. No half-cooked plans, no"let’s see where this goes.” Set the table, serve the food, and walk away when the appetite shifts. If he’s hungry for more, you don’t have to feed him. Ever. That’s what separates the pros from the lost dogs. Now go cut the bull and keep it simple.