Why You’re Failing Before Round One
See, society treats neurotypical behavior like a holy text. You don’t touch, don’t eye, don’t flex the social dance moves? You’re already labeled. But here’s the dirty secret: every rule someone’s taught you to break is the same rule they’re using to keep you playing from behind.
Your Brain’s Not the Enemy
Autism doesn’t repel women. Lack of practice, self-hatred, and yes—even your rigid rules about how relationships should work—those keep you flatlined. You act like a walking checklist of “don’ts” instead of leaning into what makes your version of flirting rare and potent.
The ‘Friend Zone’ Lie You’ve Been Sold
Men act like they’re stuck in some cosmic penalty box instead of owning the truth: they’re not communicating interest loud enough. You’re not in a zone. You’re playing from a closet. If your signals say “friend,” don’t be shocked when the response is “friend.”
Stop Pretending You’re Something You’re Not
Trying to mimic typical flirting is like wrestling in a suit. You don’t need to fake banter or forced eye contact. Own your awkward energy, your dry wit, your laser focus on depth over surface stuff. Women who crave depth will hunt for that signal.
Read This: Boundaries Aren’t Blockers
Your touch aversion? That’s leverage. Neurotypicals crash the line with hugs and hand-holding. You? You build anticipation by staying at range. You’re playing chess while they’re playing checkers. This is not a limitation. It’s your terrain.
Flirting 101 for Non-Players
Flirt is just code for "I find you stimulating enough to risk my pride." Say it plain if you can’t do the dance. Text them "You feel good to my brain. Let’s take this beyond conversation." If sarcasm flips your switches, say "I can’t read your insults, but your tone is the hottest shit I’ve heard all week."
Depression’s Whispering Shit You Can’t Trust
Dysthymia isn’t trying to warn you. It’s trying to sabotage you. That constant "I’m broken" vibe? It’s not your brain being realistic. It’s your mind’s version of a self-lick. Kill it with action that contradicts the lie. Confidence doesn’t come from feeling good—it comes from doing the things that good feelings depend on.
When They Say ‘Aww…’ They’re Cheating
That soft, vague response? They’re hedging. Either they’re too much of a wimp to say "I’m not into you long-term" or they’re avoiding guilt for treating this as a fling. Call their bluff. Text them "We’ve been good together. Am I just a fun experiment for you or are you pretending you didn’t say ‘aww’ in a serious conversation?"
Final Playbook
1. Name your style. 2. Stop apologizing for who you are. 3. Communicate your rules upfront. 4. Be explicit about your wants. And above all: Stop believing what your broken pieces tell you. They’re just trying to keep you from winning.