Resentment is a Cancer
Cutting your own throat over a guy's ability to flirt with your coworkers isn't manliness. It's self-destruction wrapped in delusion. Every time you let him be the measuring stick for your worth, you're surrendering your future to someone who wouldn't take your job in a trash fire.
The Lie of Comparison
You think comparing your sex life to his is about survival? You're playing chess while he's just moving pieces for fun. His "sweet" and "charm" are tools he built over years—probably since college when you were still learning how to stop peeing your bed. The difference between you and that jackass isn't genetic. It's training. And you haven't started paying dues yet.
Alpha Lessons in the Trenches
Real warriors don't look at the enemy's sword and cry about their own. You want his social game? Good. But the first thing you stop doing is calling your weaknesses "unfixable." That's the code language of a dead man. Every one of those "problems"—your laziness, your flustered mind, your attention span—those are targets. You fix them like you'd fix a snapped power line. Pain, sweat, and a willingness to burn through your excuses.
Step 1: Weaponize Your Curiosity
Watch him like you're prepping for a fight. How does he turn up the charm meter? What's his rhythm when he's talking to different women? Does he listen like he's mining for gold or just waiting for his chance to plug his jaw? The answers won't come from passive observation. You need a notebook and a camera. Treat this like recon mission for a war you're already in.
Step 2: Build Your Arsenal
You can't out-guess the enemy if you're still packing a butter knife. Improv classes? Good. Martial arts? Better. Meditation? Not unless you're planning to choke on your breath. What you need is active practice—high-stakes scenarios where your self-doubt gets flushed down a toilet. Pick up conversations? Start with strangers. Flirt? Start with anyone who'll let you practice. Every "mistake" is just intel you failed to use earlier.
His Skills Are Your Blueprint
That "sweet" supervisor of yours is playing a long game you don't see. He's been sharpening his social sword since he was in his teens, probably through trial and error, ego bruises, and a few real failures along the way. What you're seeing is just his polished finish. The question now is whether you want to keep wallowing in jealousy or start building your own weapon from the raw materials you have.
Break the Comparison Chains
Stop measuring your progress against a man who isn't even tracking his own legacy. You think he's the gold standard when he might be just one step ahead of disaster. What if his "charming" mask covers some hollow bones? You don't owe him your self-respect. You don't owe anyone your self-worth.
The War You Can Actually Win
This isn't about fighting him. It's about ending your own civil war. You're not a "beta" loser. You're a man who hasn't claimed his power yet. His skills? Borrow them and improve upon them. His failures? Steal them so you don't repeat them. Every time he walks into a room, you should see blueprints—real blueprints—for the house you're going to build in your place.
You want to stop resenting him? Start by outgrowing the man he is. Not the man you think he is. The real man behind the charming smile and smooth lines. That's the game. That's your mission. And I guarantee you, when you start winning that war, the women will see you differently, not just in the boardroom but in the real one.
Now go get busy. This is where you start leaving your mark.